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Or Emet offers the full range of life-cycle ceremonies — Baby Namings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs (B’Mitzvahs), Weddings and Commitment Ceremonies, and Funerals. Or Emet’s ritual committee, members of our community with extensive and wide ranging experiences with and knowledge of Humanistic Jewish rituals, work closely with individuals and families in crafting a ceremony that meets their wishes and celebrates the person(s) who is the focus. The ritual committee includes Sarah Berman-Young, Hebrew and Music instructor for our children and certified wedding officiant with the American Humanist Association; Eva Cohen, lifetime Or Emet member and former Jewish Cultural School Director, is our B’Mitzvah instructor and officiant, and a Rabbinic Candidate with the Institute for International Secular Humanistic Judaism.

Our ceremonies run the gamut from highly eclectic to more traditional, depending on the wishes of families. As a Jewish congregation we encourage the inclusion of Jewish ritual, though it need not be in the traditional form, and Humanist adaptations are available. In all cases, and in keeping with our Humanist values, life-cycle ceremonies are highly personalized. We endeavor to have the person(s) being celebrated outshine the ritual. We celebrate their unique gifts, contributions, and future potential. In addition, we always celebrate families, generations, significant relationships, and community.

Baby Naming: Baby Naming is a warm and wonderful Jewish tradition. It is a time to welcome a new baby into your family, to celebrate the promise of this new life, and to celebrate the passing on of traditions from the generations in a way that honors both Jewish and Humanist values. Typically, the several generations of a family meet with a member of our ritual committee and collectively decide on the shape of a ceremony to celebrate the naming of a new child. Every baby naming is unique.

Bar and Bat Mitzvahs (B’Mitzvahs): These celebrations mark an important step toward adulthood. Or Emet’s B’Mitzvah Program is led by Humanistic Rabbinic Candidate and Jewish Cultural School Teacher Eva Cohen. The term “B’Mitzvah” includes Bar Mitzvah, Bat Mitzvah, and youth of all genders who do not identify with the “Bar” or “Bat” label.

In the year leading up to their B’Mitzvah ceremonies, youth study together and take part in youth-selected Jewish cultural, service, and tikkun olam activities. In celebrating this significant transition Or Emet puts great emphasis on allowing and encouraging the B’Mitzvah youth to study and speak from a Humanist perspective on a subject of Jewish interest to her or him. This is one way we celebrate the youth’s gifts. One Bar Mitzvah, an avid hockey player, spoke on Jewish hockey players. Another spoke on the contributions of Jewish artists, and a Bat Mitzvah presented a scholarly study of different religions’ conceptions of God. The B’Mitzvah youth may or may not chant part of their Torah or Haftarah portions, and may choose to deliver a Humanistic Torah commentary. The fact that the youth’s wishes and talents take strong precedence allows the person to shine through the ritual, which is precisely our intent as Humanistic Jews. Guests frequently comment on this fact as they express appreciation of the ceremony. Again, as with all B’Mitzvah ceremonies elsewhere, families and generations are honored.

Weddings and Commitment Ceremonies: Sarah Berman-Young, Vocal Leader, Jewish Cultural School Hebrew and Music Instructor, and member of our ritual committee, is licensed by the American Humanist Association to perform weddings in Minnesota. Again, services are highly personalized and honor the wishes of the couple by allowing the couple to craft their ceremony as they wish, so there may or may not be a chuppah or the breaking of a glass. The result is that those attending get to know who the couple are, not just that they are now legally committed to each other. A recent couple, for example, first talked about their previous lives, apart and together. Then the bride explained how they had arrived at the decision that the traditional institution of marriage could fit with their progressive ideology. She then went on to speak of their support for marriage equality.

Funerals: On the sad occasion of the passing of an Or Emet member, our ritual committee consults with the family. Together they plan a celebration of the family member’s contributions and legacy in the form the family desires. We believe that the potential of people to positively influence the world carries on in their children and grandchildren, and in all of the people they touched. Typically, several people speak, instead of a single featured eulogy, underlining that this is both a family’s and a community’s loss. We honor Jewish tradition by including a Humanist adaptation of the Mourner’s Kaddish, although families may choose the traditional one as well.

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B’Mitzvah reflections from past Or Emet students–

“It was so nice having all our family and friends come and celebrate our Bat Mitzvot, and take part in the service. Guitarist Amy Stubenhaus led us in the singing of traditional shabbat songs. I talked about my Torah portion from the Book of Exodus, and gave my interpretation of the story of Passover from a humanistic point of view. I played a song from “Ghetto Sketches” by George Perlman, a Ukranian Jew, on my violin. All in all, it was a great night.”    Julia Wolfe

“My torah portion was from Deuteronomy. I explained the rules which the ancient rabbis said traditional Jews were expected to follow, and then I questioned the relevance of these rules for today’s world. I played traditional Hebrew melodies on the saxophone. These traditional songs are part of who we are as Jews, and are especially important to our congregation because our focus is not on god but on the traditions and culture of Judaism.”    – Elana Dahlager

Please contact ceremonies@oremet.org to discuss Or Emet officiating at your wedding or other important life cycle event.

Calendar
May 20, 2018
  • Jewish Cultural School #9
    Time: 10:00 am - 12:30 pm
  • Adult Program: "Resistance Then and Now: Learning from the Dutch"
    Time: 10:00 am - 12:30 pm
May 24, 2018
  • Executive Committee Meeting
    Time: 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
June 3, 2018
  • Jewish Cultural School #9
    Time: 10:00 am - 12:30 pm